Finding The Right Woman

I like this one! I know, I know, what does a gay guy know about finding the right woman? Whatever! Just wait a minute. If you really need to do it, then change woman to man if it makes you more comfy!

But just for the sake of this jewel let’s just leave it as it is. I have a son. He is now 21 years old! Gosh! Wherever did the time go? He never really asked me this question. But I hope he got from me the answer even without asking the question.

So many people (yes not just men) are looking for the partner who will complete them. Aghhhh! Stop right there! Do you honestly think you are only a part? Do you look at yourself as something that is broken, that needs someone to fix you? Then stop it!

God made us in his/her image. Get it?! And if you don’t believe in God or some Higher Power, then look at yourself from a biological/chemical standpoint. You are a grouping of molecules, cells, energy. The person you choose as a partner is made up exactly the same way (basically). yes the colour of the hair is different, the gender may be different (see I’m listening), the height may be different, etc… But when you get right down to the basics we are all exactly the same mass of chemicals and energy. So why on earth do you need someone to complete you? You don’t!

So instead of looking for that person. Look to your self. Look within. And if you are a spiritual person, then ask for guidance. Work on who you are BEFORE you try to find that wonderful person with whom you are going to spend years of your life with.

I’m proud of my son. You all already know that from my previous ramblings. He is a great young man. He’s not perfect. I know that. He knows that too. But he is kind and gentle and caring. Last year when we were on our cruise, one of our fellow dinner companions had a seizer at the table after I had left. Tim (age 19) took control of the situation and then saw her back to her stateroom afterwards. He made sure she was fine and even checked up on her the next morning. Now, that made this Dad proud.

Tim has a wonderful lady now. And I know that he does NOT believe that she is a completion of him. He is blessed to have someone to ride the roller coaster of life with. They will learn about themselves and each other on this ride.

 

Finding The Right Woman