Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life

It’s not easy in our day and age to create what Dr. Northrup is talking about. We get so wound up in the drama that surrounds us. We even think it’s the right thing to do. We think we are helping others if we get as upset as they. We believe that without us that loved one would fall flat on their face. This is actually referred to as codependence. And codependence is actually a form of narcissism.  We hold this belief that “they need me” or “they will be so hurt if I walk away.” But in reality it’s really all about me when I say that. Look at it again. “They need ME,” and “They will be so hurt if I walk away. It really is about ME. Can you see it now?

Because we choose to live like Jesus we then develop, not only the Saviour Complex, we also become martyrs, miserable, hard done by, resentful and even contributing to the abusive cycle we may be in with someone. This again is called codependence. Believe me, I know. I’ve been there and done that and have MANY t-shirts to show for it. I am a recovering codependent. I admit it. I hope and pray that I have learned to let go of drama and change my beliefs and behaviours. And guess what? I’m starting to see the clouds clear. It has taken three years. But then again it took a lifetime of being a codependent to cause the sadness in my life.

What about you? Do you chose drama? Being a Saviour? Being a codependent? If you see yourself in this, and even if you don’t I highly recommend a book by Melody Beattie called Codependent No More! It literally saved my life.

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life