Broken Yet Believing

Life can really suck sometimes, can’t it? Right!?! Sometimes by the time we get to the front of the line the till closes! Sometimes sh&* happens! It’s true! It’s just the natural order of things.

A number of years ago I remember coming across a Guru (sorry I don’t remember who). He was interviewing this poor woman. She had had a terrible time. Her life was just a catastrophe. And when it wasn’t it was just waiting to be a catastrophe!

I remember watching the two of them. She was crying her life was so terrible. She had been truly and deeply broken. He listened intently. You could see the compassion in him. You could see that she was really showing him how hard her life had been up to this point. Then she was finished.

“So what!”

You would have thought a wind storm had hit with the sound of the collective gasps!

Boy did we read him wrong! He’s an ass! People were in shock. But no one could speak. She looked at her compassionate listener and all the blood had drained from her face. The tears had stopped alright. But not because she was feeling better. If anything she was now in shock; yet another blow, another heart crushing moment.

He then said something like, “You’ve had a terrible time of it (Janet). Life has really been challenging for you. In fact I can honestly say you’ve really been through some real sh*!. So what!”

And there it was again!

“You’ve had a terrible past. It has been painful. But it’s in the past. You’ve now told your story with all it’s emotion and pain. Good! That’s it! It’s all yesterday’s news now! So what…now? Is your life terrible right here, right now? Haven’t you been enjoying this weekend? You’ve made new friends who’ve listened to your pain. So what do you plan to be now….tomorrow…next week…next year? Are you going to let all that crap dictate to you? Are you going to be a victim? You are a bright woman. You are beautiful, smart, educated. The past is behind you. It’s not beside you and you certainly don’t need it in front of you. Look in front of you. Do it now? What do you see?”

Blank face.

“Exactly….nothing. There is absolutely NO  THING in front of you. The future is clear. So all that stuff you just told me is just ‘so what’. It means nothing unless you allow it to; allow it to control you and your destiny. So what? What do you want to be? What do you want to see? What are you capable of? So what?”

I got it! In that moment many of us got it! Sometimes life is challenging. Sometimes life is painful. Sometimes it’s downright sh*!!y! SO WHAT!? What now? What can I do with now, tomorrow, next week? And why on earth would I want to drag all of that stuff with me?

Yes the mind is a wonderful thing. It truly is (except when I can’t find my reading glasses or keys). It is the most magnificent computer ever created. But yet, sometimes the mind is downright stupid! We go through pain and then instead of letting it go (and I know we sometimes need time to deal with pain, it’s called grieving…not wallowing though) the mind keeps it right there in front of us. Aghhhh!

A few days ago I was out with Gracie the wonder wiener dog. She is not always the most social of butterflies. In fact she can be downright aggressive. I hope that one day I’ll figure it out of her. Maybe not. So what, right! Well, anyhow, I was out with her and she had one of her spaz attacks and went ballistic at a person across the street. I hollered and she settled back to ‘normal’ (whatever that is). Then she did something. She shook herself. She shook off the aggression. The hair on her back went flat again and she went on sniffing for whatever dogs sniff for. It was over; done…finished!

MY TRUTH: Spirit make me an instrument of your LOVE. When I have been hurt. When I have been really hurt. When I have been devastated…help me to get to that point of saying “So what!” and move on, shake it off…love again. It doesn’t have to be a lover. It may be a workmate or a friend or a family member. Take my broken heart and make me something better.

Broken Yet Believing

An Amazing April Fool's Prank...Best Ever!

This Waitress Becomes The Victim

Of A Life Changing Prank

 

Meet Chelsea Roff. An average waitress who raised her sister alone from a very young age, suffered from an eating disorder (weighing only 58 pounds at one point of time) and runs a non profit yoga clinic to help people suffering from the former. Her friends and colleagues step in to trap her in this amazing April fools prank.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p2zUf06iy1A

For the full website SHAREDOTS go here

An Amazing April Fool's Prank...Best Ever!

Little Things Are Big Things

Remember when Grandma made you chocolate cake when you had a cold? Remember when you had a friend who just sat with you when you were not in a talking mood? Remember when you did these things? Well do them again. Do them often.

It’s the small acts of kindness that make the biggest impact. It’s the smallest gesture of goodness that makes the biggest impression. What happened to the day when you held open the door for a lady? What about doing it for a guy? What happened to giving up the seat on the bus for the little old lady? What about doing it for the healthy girl or guy?

TODAY’S ASSIGNMENT: In some small way…make a HUGE impact!

 

Little Things Are Big Things

Courage

Isn’t this a wonderful jewel? I used to be an A-Type personality. I used to be a rather impatient person, especially with myself, but with others too. I used to be a conqueror not an encourager. I used to try to push, push, push.

I’m not sure when it happened. But somewhere between 10 and 40 I began to be conscious of what damage I was doing to myself and others when I pushed to hard. I began to realize that you can’t push the river because the river will push back…harder…and probably win. I realized that a snail can only move at a snail’s pace. I began to realize that we all have moments, days, periods, in our lives when we are ALL turtles struggling to get off the beach into the safety of the water.

Plato was a wise man! Wow! What an insight right?! Not really. We all already knew that.

TODAY’S ASSIGNMENT: No this isn’t a push thing. It’s an observation and compassion thing. Notice someone who is doing their best to be all that they can be and encourage them. Notice someone who is judging themselves for not meeting someone else’s or their own expectations and help them to see that they can only be expected to do their best. And today’s best may well look different from yesterday’s best or tomorrow’s best. Be and encourager, not a pusher today.

 

Courage

Every Soul Is A Mirror

I’ve heard it said over and over again that relationships are about learning or that relationships are a mirror of ourselves. Over the last few years I have done a lot of study and work around relationships; the mystery of, the joy of, the reasons for, good ones, not so good ones, ‘failed’ ones, and so on.

But what I have experienced as my truth is that I learn from every relationship I have, whether that be a businesses relationship, acquaintance, friendship, intimate (even though I haven’t had one of those in a long time now), and even my children. Oh and let’s not forget animals too.

I have learned that often times we seem to be attracted to the antithesis (big word? = opposite) of what we’d expect or are. Why is this? Well they say that opposites attract. And to a certain extent that can be true. But often a quite person is attracted to a more outgoing person because they wish to experience that outgoing-ness in a safe relationship. Sometimes he may want her to draw him out so that he can be more fun.

Sometimes we are drawn to abusive types too. This used to be a conundrum for me. I think I understand it now. I can lay all kind of layers of psycho-babble to it. But simply put, we are drawn to abusive people because we often have that as a disowned self. For more on disowned selves I recommend any reading by Doctors Hall and Sidra Stone (Wikipedia Link, their website, Amazon). They have written a great deal of material around this subject and how it relates to relationships as well. Excellent Reading!

When we become aware of the various parts of our own psyche we can integrate them into ourselves and own them all. We then become more balanced and when we enter into any relationship we then can realize and see ourselves in other people and learn from that. We can also become so much more compassionate about other people and their shortcomings because we feel safe admitting that deep down we know we have shortcomings to…perhaps even the same ones.

Being a parent is the best classroom someone can ever be in, I think. I have learned so much from my kids. They have taught me patience (after many, many temper tantrums…and I don’t mean theirs). They have taught me unconditional love. They have taught me the value of discipline (I don’t mean the corporal type I mean self-discipline). They have taught me to be strong, to rely on them and others when the need be.

MY TRUTH: I hope one day to have another chance at an intimate relationship too. There is so much I want to do differently. But more than that, I hope to one day have that safe place where learning about self and someone close it wonderful and supportive and ongoing. But for now, every time I look at someone else instead of projecting myself onto them I try to see them as a mirror of my own soul.

 

Every Soul Is A Mirror

Stop The Bullying!

Everyone’s Been Bullied. Not Everyone Responds Like This 15-Year-Old Girl.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQrCti-hqu0#t=125

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Stop The Bullying!

Everyone Is Doing Their Best

I like Deepak! He has come to this time in our history for a reason. He, in my opinion, is a modern-day prophet. He has written so much, done so much to raise the consciousness of this planet. Yes there are others, many others. I’m not denying that. In fact I love many different prophets. Another prophet has said it like this: Don’t make assumptions. Can you place who it is? That’s right, Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s been many years since I started reading The Four Agreements. I read it at least once a year.

I love to sit in a mall or in a park and watch people. Don’t you? It’s fun. I sit and enjoy watching people having fun and just hanging out. I also like to create little stories about them.

O look at the lady in blue. Her hair looks like it came through a wind tunnel. That dress, barely hanging out of the bottom of her blue coat, looks like she slept in it. And look at that! Has she got puke on her back? What a mess she is!!! 

Then along comes three wonderful little bundles of joy. Triplets! They can’t be more than 5 or 6! And whose that? OMG!!!! Is that her partner??? He’s got another kid! No actually it’s a baby!

She’s a saint!!!

I sure changed my story. Mr. Judgey my daughter would call me. But we do it don’t we?

The same happens when someone says something the wrong way. We judge them. Bitch! 

And when a client doesn’t show up for an appointment. Well that’s considerate! My time is valuable!

But what we don’t know, and can’t possibly know, is what’s going on behind the face, the words, the missing person.

And even if the person is being a jerk or inconsiderate, they are only doing what they can at this point in their journey. Remember, you haven’t always been perfect you know!

MY TRUTH: It is my daily prayer that I be compassionate, understanding, caring, non-judgmental. I’m not always doing it. I’m not always even trying to do it. Forgive me for when I judge. Forgive me if I’ve judged you. Forgive me for not being as kind and compassionate as I desire to be.

 

Everyone Is Doing Their Best